When we think of love we don’t usually think of it as something that can be commanded.  We think of feeling all warm and gooey inside.  We think of our heart racing and our palms getting moist with nervousness when we see the one we love.  We think of feeling like we are walking on air.  We think of the words of the Bonnie Raitt song, I can't make you love me if you don’t.  We think those things because we often confuse love and infatuation.  We often focus on romantic love instead of the kind of love Jesus is talking about.